All the believers devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching, and to fellowship, and to sharing in meals (including the Lord’s Supper[i]), and to prayer.  — Acts 2:42 NLT

“No man is on an Island.” – John Donne

“Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.”- Unknown

We can’t help but become like the influences we surround ourselves with. Many of us have said, I don’t want to be like my parents, only to find ourselves doing exactly what we said we’d never do. Why? Because life is more caught than taught. We reproduce what we know and what we’ve seen. Even when we don’t want to.

We can be intentional about who we surround ourselves with. Jesus chose a group of guys he would spend most of his time with. These were guys he wanted to invest in and empower to take his message to the world. These were also guys he asked to help hold him accountable to his calling even though he knew they wouldn’t have the capacity to do it. He also knew they would need each other when he left.

We were made to do life with others. We were made to be in community with others. We can’t understand the calling God has on our lives without the help of others speaking into our lives. We all have blind spots. We all have areas in our lives that require others to speak into. We need others to add value to our lives in areas of weakness. We all need a circle of people around us who are for us and will fuel our purpose.

In different seasons our circle looks different. It’s not about having the same people for a lifetime, even though that is great. It’s about having the right people in the right season in your circle. Someone once gave me great advice when he told me to build my circle. He told me to find people I want in my circle from my city and from those in other parts of the country. He said, then be internal about finding ways to connect with those people. He was empowering me to build my circle. We can be intentional about who we surround ourselves with. We can seek out people and relationships for the purpose of living on purpose.

Our circle is a picture of our future. How can you build the circle of relationships to fulfill your purpose?


Who is in your circle today? Who do you need to invite into your circle?